Would you Change for Him_Her?
If you were the star that I was meant to seek for me to achieve my greatest joy, then I would happily scour the earth to die for you.
Today I came across a couple in the neighborhood who were having a heated argument concerning who does or does not do what. Apparently, Jason is too wild, selective and strict in how matters should be handled in his house as well as around him. On the other hand, Alexia is too stuck up, primitive and a wanna-be hip person who ends up embarrassing herself all the time. The boyfriend: Jason is trying to “mould her” but Alexia does not seem too happy about it. I love the couple though. Out here they portray an image of perfection. Couple goals notwithstanding with their levels and “drip”. Matching attires with their ever newly-purchased German machines to complete the look. If that are not standards to beat, then…
They both come from old money so they are pretty comfortable despite the fact that they are C.E.O and M.D, respectively, in the most prestigious companies in our country today. Their tastes are matching and quite impeccable. Their house is something akin to an old British manor with all the age pomp and magnificence of it’s bolstering height, posh gardens, a modern interior and with up-to date technological age, spot-on security gadgets. The house is simply a beautiful fortress alluring to the eye. If sexy was a house, I’d totally bang that.
It’s a sad cliché that rich families usually are the saddest tumultuous families. Quite hard to believe when you are viewing the situation from the other side of the coin. Most people toil daily in order to make something out of their lives. Make a bit of money. Climb up the social ladder. Increase their social status and mingle, dine and wine among the allegedly elite in the society. Status quo, pride, class, the ticks that suck the very life out of the priceless societal virtues. Why do we crave to be the “exalted scum of the earth”, if we ourselves are not already rotten hidden within a veil of civility?
If I were the sunshine that made your bright and beautiful yellow sunflower petals come to life, I would shine forever so that I would get to see the beauty of your face every day of my life.
Aside from the ruse dubbed civility. The crux of the matter is that, long-term relationships fail and eventually break as a result of the lack of capacity for compromise which is a sugar-coated way to talk about changing oneself for another. We all have personalities, wants, likes and dislikes but it gets to a point where our partners get uncomfortable with our choices and therefore suggest little tweaks here and there to their liking and once we begin noticing that, we begin to say that they want to change us. They did not really love us the way we are right from the start. In religion, we are told to come as we are, but are we expected to keep staying as we are, or change for the better, in tandem with the precepts and teachings?
So, what do you think, is it right to change or is it an insult to your persona? If you happen to talk to either one of our aged grandparents, I am sure they would advise us to take every correction and suggestion with ease and patience as well as understanding of your significant other’s background. Despite theirs being an era long and begone, their wisdom remains etched in the hearts of those who held them dear. Their actions portray firm astute grounding in matters of character and behavioural conduct. Those are the ones we term as well brought-up.
Would you change for his sake? Would you change for her sake? Or would it be a battle of woes where peace and harmony are foreign concepts? Or better yet, would you agree to compromise for the growth and grounding of your relationship? Where all the words uttered would a synchronous symphony reverberating ceaselessly in love and affection. Where he would say, “If you were the star that I was meant to seek for me to achieve my greatest joy, then I would happily scour the earth to die for you.” And she would say, ” If I were the sunshine that made your bright and beautiful yellow sunflower petals come to life, I would shine forever so that I would get to see the beauty of your face every day of my life.”
By: AK. Stine