Two days ago, I was informed that I had lost a close cousin. As heartless as it sounds, I wasn’t moved by the news even in the least. Not that she was not that close to the family. In fact she was the daughter to my mother’s brother. Grace (26 years of age) was her name; may her soul rest in eternal peace. She was a spitting image of true unedited beauty. The reflection of love and joy. The replica of a personality that was genuinely kind, loving and caring. At least that is what I was made to believe when the message of her demise was conveyed to me at the time. So, if she was all these nice things to all around her, then why would anybody want to poison and kill her?
Yes, she died of poisoning. The story version that was conveyed to me was that she went to visit with the family of one of her closest friends the previous weekend and that is where she met her demise. According to the inside story, her friend was always envious of her family background and life achievements thus far. Apparently, the friend’s family also felt the same and so they colluded to end her life in such an untimely and tragic manner. You might be tempted to ask why. Or even wonder, whether my cousin had done anything to warrant such treatment from a person she considered to be her friend. Truth is, we really never know someone, until we know them.
Behind the façade of friendship, lies the bitter, terrifying feeling of envy, jealousy and wariness. I personally do not understand the concept behind such emotions because I always wish the best on anyone familiar or foreign alike. I am definitely not an angel (most people will term me as the devil reincarnate), but I believe that anyone deserves a win in life. We can never fathom the battles that other people fight in their lives or even within their minds alone, so the least and best thing that we can do is to offer them a shoulder to cry on. A hand of reassurance and support when their world goes topsy-turvy and gentle push in the direction of optimism and hope in a better tomorrow. Is that too much to ask?
I think not. Human beings hold the highest capacity for love and support for one another. Unlike beasts of the field that may sometimes act indifferent towards a disadvantaged member of their group, humans can always find an iota of kindness amidst the sea of selfishness within. We are a less primitive species as compared to all other species. In my perspective, the nature of us humans to feel and act in a manner that takes into consideration the next affected party, is what really makes us human. It is what sets us apart as a unique, conquering species among all other forms of life in this planet. When we allow vices such as envy overtake us then we make a conscious decision to sink into primitivism.
Some friends of mine offered me their condolences last night and I laughed. I literally laughed. They were shocked and asked me why I would do that yet it was bad news. I said, “It’s just funny that people die every day…” Then I deviated from my trail of thought. You are thinking, “This is the worst person I have ever met. So inconsiderate. Very inhumane.” But do you think what I said was wrong? That people die every day? Maybe so. Maybe not. The facts and statistics do not lie and according to my statement, I was thoroughly on point. I had my facts right but my direct system of approach was not appealing to the human mind. Prompts me to question, is the human mind too sensitive when it feels attacked?
Today, every single human being on this planet is struggling daily to fit in. Social construct overrules even the simple voice of reason among peers. We are all struggling to fit into the tightly-knit societal standards that we end up ruffling each other’s feathers. People try to be part of a group. This way they do not have to feel out of place or be misconstrued as weird and socially awkward. Humans generally need to have a sense of purpose and belonging in order to function. But why go on to maintain such tight bonds when all they exhibit is a fallacy? Fake lives and achievements showcased in perfectly curated photographs on social media. The social circles we have built are based on various closeted standards, yet we remain the champions for equality for all humanity? So why are we hypocritical?
Every single person deserves a win in life. We deserve a good night sleep in a good bed with a smile on our faces after having a fruitful day. The human race appreciates hard work dedication and genius in whatever manner. No wonder we thrive here and move on to do so even in other places in the Milky Way. Yes, we are entitled to happy life, because we have worked for it. However, we should not take down our fellow brethren who are higher up in the ladder in order to climb. Neither should we kick down those below us because we think that the ladder is too weak to hold all of our weight. A ‘paradise’ awaits us beyond all the toil and turmoil. The more we offer support to each other whilst we remain sojourners, the merrier we shall be once we reach our destination. Think upon these things.